Friday, October 24, 2014
As I have been writing posts the last
few days, a thought keeps poking up through the rant in my head,
about why people believe things, and I think this is something that
most people probably don't consider a whole lot. Of course, I am so
sheltered, having grown up in a totally conservative environment,
where everyone's beliefs are handed down from generation to
generation, with no need to question them until recently, because,
the majority of people, while not necessarily subscribing to them,
agreed that they were probably true, at least on some level.
This makes me one of the worst judges
of what normal people do, or talk, or think about. But, in my
experience, a lot of people that I have known, seem to give more
thought to their choice of a favorite major league sports franchise,
than they do to their philosophy on life. That, or they spend about
six months during college, when they are taking philosophy, or
comparative religion, or psychology to gel their belief system, and
then they never revisit it, you know, set it and forget it, like the
showtime rotisserie.
So, I thought about it and I came to a
few conclusions, which are probably completely wrong, but I am sure
you kind people will be good enough to correct my misconceptions. So,
here they are.
WHY?
There are a few major reasons that
people believe the things they believe, most of them are, in one way
or another, inherited. Here they are in no particular order.
- Because my parents told me so
- Because I learned it in school
- Because that is what everyone else I know believes
- The Bible says so
- And last but not least, there are a few individuals who think it through, listen to input, read, study and come to well reasoned conclusions.
So, there they are. Now, let's take
them apart and look at them a little.
BECAUSE MY PARENTS SAID SO
For most of us, this one tends to wear
off a bit by the time we are fourteen. However, it comes back around
as the default when we reach adulthood, unless we find other beliefs
to take up space in our heads, but for the record, this is probably
the single worst reason to believe anything!
My dad, the preacher, used to use
this sermon illustration: A woman is preparing her first big Holiday
meal in her own home,and her mother sits at the kitchen table,
helping with odd things here and there. The woman pulls a large roast
out of the refrigerator, where it has been marinating, and promptly
cuts off both ends of it, putting the smaller, center section of the
roast into a broiler pan with the herbs and spices, and pops it in
the oven.
Her mother looks at her
questioningly and the daughter asks why, the mother asks why she has
cut the roast that way, and the daughter says, because you taught me
to. The mother laughs. Turns out the mother had been cutting the
roast off at both ends because the pan she had when the daughter
lived at home, was too small for a larger roast. In turn, this pan
was the one inherited from her mother, who also cut the roast ends to
accommodate the smaller pan.
It is a fact that
our parents do have deeply held beliefs, and that we tend to pick up
on them. Some are overtly shared, and expected to be carried on. Some
are unintentionally passed along through habits and traditions. In
some cases, we may not even know the difference, like the woman
cutting the roast, there are probably things in most lives that we do
thinking they are important, or sacred on some level, when all the
while it is just what has always been done. This roast cutting ritual
could have been passed down to another generation, and so on, if the
mother had never asked.
These beliefs may
be useful, and some of them may prove to be true, but accepting
beliefs, especially beliefs that dictate your relationships,
religious observances, or political affiliations, without really
knowing if you really believe in them or not, seems like a recipe for
an unfulfilled life.
So, how do you
explore these family heirlooms without being disrespectful? First,
there is absolutely no reason to say anything to anyone who will be
offended, until you have truly decided. You are an adult, and you can
choose your own beliefs. Where your parents are right, follow them
and teach your children to do the same, where they are wrong, drop it
like its hot. When it doesn't matter, just think it through, if the
belief adds to your life, keep it, if not, do what you want, if it
detracts, throw it out.
MY TEACHER TOLD ME
SO!
Teachers are great,
and if you listen to the news, they are the unsung heroes of our era,
but keep looking and you will also see that some of them are not and
should never be left alone with minors. In general, the truth lies
somewhere in the middle, and most teachers are hard working, well
meaning people who took their jobs to help young people get a head
start on life.
Teachers are fairly
well educated, and as such are looked to as dispensers of accurate
information. However, many of them also start straight into their
teaching profession, with little work, or other adult experience,
outside academia. Sometimes this creates a very narrow window of
information and they share mostly what was taught to them and from
approved sources that other teachers use as well.
In general, this is
not a problem when it comes to basic facts, but almost all of what we
consider to be beliefs are not factual information, but opinion based
ideals that we use as a framework for making life decisions. A
person with limited outside experience, who works inside a government
structure, with others who have a similarly limited experience, may
not be the best ones to get your world view from.
Everyone has
biases, the trick is to expose yourself to enough different points of
view to minimize the impact your biases have on your general belief
system. So, same as with the parents, when it comes to beliefs you
learned in school, expose them to the light of day, if they still
stand up, keep them, if not, meh...
EVERYONE KNOWS
THAT!
Everyone, as it
turns out, is a highly unreliable source of information. After all,
everyone, passed around a story that had youngsters and women
sneaking peaks into their back seats in fear of a gangster wannabe
with a hatchet, ready to take their hand back to their leaders in
some form of gang initiation. Turns out, this never happened, or was
never recorded at least, not one single time! But everyone was
convinced that it was true.
Recently everyone
has been up in arms about a lot of things that are going to destroy
the American dream, take your pick
- Illegal aliens
- Ebola
- Obama
- The NSA
- ISIS
The names change
from time to time, but there is nothing new in that. Before we were
so afraid of Islamic terrorists, it was Russians. When the iron
curtain finally came down, what did we find out? Were they our equal,
but opposite nemesis? NO, they were a broke, disorganized mess that
could not even keep track of their own nuclear arsenal. Everyone knew
they were going to get us, to the point that school children were
subjected to ridiculously pointless drills, in the firm belief that
their eventual attack could be survived by ducking and covering under
a school desk. But it never happened.
It is my opinion,
that none of these things will be our ultimate undoing, we will
destroy ourselves, running from one fear to the next, with everyone
cheering us on to our demise.
There are some
simple way to combat everyone's beliefs. First, do a little fact
checking before you decide to believe what they say. Find out for
yourself, especially if your health, safety, finances, or family are
at risk if they are wrong. In this day and age, information on almost
anything is available at your fingertips. When everyone was saying
that thousands were being beheaded by ISIS a simple search would
reveal that the source was one single interview which got repeated so
many times that it became fact over night, although credible evidence
was nowhere to be found, and even many conservative watchdog sites
caught on and debunked some of the photos claiming to show this
atrocity.
Think about it, if
there were thousands of christians being beheaded, wouldn't you be
able to find pictures? I mean, Rene Zellweger gets a little eyelid
tuck and there are literally hundreds of stories chock full of
comparison photos,and you seriously think that the same govt that
used this story as a justification to bomb another middle eastern
country straight to hell scrubbed the internet of photos related to
it? Turns out, there were never even tens of thousands of this people
group to begin with.
Same practice
applies, if it isn't true, or doesn't make sense, why bother with it?
In most cases, a simple, am I minding my own business? Test will make
it unnecessary for you to have an opinion at all. It goes like this:
Does this have a direct bearing on my life? No, scrap it. Yes,
continue. Is there anything I can do to change it? No, stop worrying
so much, Yes, do it! If it really does not effect you in any way,
stop talking about it, it's gossip, it's none of your business and
you are becoming a part of the problem.
THE BIBLE TELLS ME
SO!
This one is tricky
for me, because I happen to believe in the Bible as a source of
truth. But, I have heard more outrageous beliefs justified by
supposed Biblical support, or mandate, than just about anything else.
So, let's get started, shall we?
The
first stop on this little jaunt is, does it really? Does it really
say whatever is being claimed? In many cases, the answer will be yes,
and you may have to do a little digging to get to the truth. In
addition to a literal interpretation of a single verse,or small
passage, an understanding of context will often clear up many
misunderstandings. For instance, there are some verses, if quoted on
their own, or only in part, seem to say one thing. For example the
Bible says “We keep on sinning so that God can show us more
and more of his wonderful grace” but in reality that verse says:
“Well then, should we keep on sinning so that God can show us more
and more of his wonderful grace?” And the following verse adds to
this understanding by adding: “Of course not! Since we have died to
sin, how can we continue to live in it?”
This is, of course, not something that
I have ever heard anyone claim, or teach, but you get the idea. So,
ask, where is that verse, then go and read the passage, the chapter,
or two chapters surrounding it. Find out , who is talking? Who are
they talking to? Why are they saying what they are saying? Does it
really seem to mean what you heard it meant? Does that line up with
the rest of scripture, and what you know about the Bible and
christianity? If not, keep looking until you find the answer!
There are other more subtle nuances to
this as well, for instance, do you know the difference between a
translation and a version? Is the version being quoted generally seen
as reliable to the original text? Are the passages still relevant
today? Not everything that is in scripture is generally considered
applicable to modern believers. Is the language in the passage, other
than what was quoted figurative, or literal?
Asking all of these questions will get
you through many crises of Biblical understanding, and just knowing
these tips will put you way ahead of many people who even teach the
Bible themselves!
Before I leave this topic, I want to
hit on the doctrine of Biblical inerrancy. Basically, the tenets of
most evangelical, mainstream protestant denominations state that the
Bible is perfect. That it was protected by God so that it would be
perfectly translated, that the documents that are a part of it are
perfect, and inspired directly by God and that it is the complete
revealed message of God.
This is something I used to ascribe to,
vehemently. Then one day I realized, it does not matter. No, I don't
mean it isn't important whether it is true, or accurate. What I mean
is this, we cannot claim to perfectly understand all parts of
scripture. If you think you do, there will be an equal number of
equally educated experts lined up on the other side to argue against
your interpretation, so, ergo, whether it is perfect or not, does not
matter. This does not mean we should not strive to understand it
better and better as we live our lives.
Here is one question to ask yourself
regarding the inerrancy of scripture, why does it matter to you? I
know for myself it was a matter of self justification. In other
words, if I have this perfect book, and I use it as a filter to judge
everything in life, then I can know that what I believe is true, all
of the time. Another part of why it mattered was this, I could also
“rightly judge” the actions of others to know who was and was not
in the club!
I will argue the other side for one
moment. This document, however flawed, is the only tangible thing we
Christians have to base our faith on. It is the only single point of
conversion we can all point to and work from in understanding how we
should interact with each other, and it is the most complete record
of the life of Christ and His teachings.
So, is “because the Bible tells me
so” a good reason to believe something? In many cases, the answer
may be yes. But not everything that it says is as it appears,
especially out of context, and not everything someone claims it says
is true. Want to be one of the best educated Christians in the world?
Read it, from front to back, you will be more informed than almost
every other believer. Very few ever do that.
THINK FOR YOURSELF!
Above all else, you have been given a
mind, and a conscience. If you are a Christian, Jesus said the spirit
of God would reside within you. You have all of the mental, spiritual
and physical capacities to make good decisions, form good beliefs and
judge what you want to add, and what you want to discard. Ultimately,
you will be accountable for your own life, take this from Paul, the
Apostle
If one of the unbelievers invites you
and you want to go, eat anything that is set before you without
asking questions for conscience' sake. But if anyone says to you,
"This is meat sacrificed to idols," do not eat it, for the
sake of the one who informed you, and for conscience' sake; I mean
not your own conscience, but the other man's; for why is my freedom
judged by another's conscience?…
I love this last bit, why is my freedom
judged by another's conscience. No, it should not be. You and you
alone will give an account for the life you lead. Please, think about
your beliefs, get rid of those that don't fit. Accept new and better
ones when you find them and live by all of your beliefs in such a way
that you love all men, at all times, in all places.
Thursday, October 23, 2014
When I finished my rant the other day, I realized there were a few
categories I had left out entirely, so, not wanting to offend only
a small part of my audience, I decided to write a follow up. I cannot
tell you how much better it feels to not be holding back anymore. It
is exhilarating to finally be free to say whatever I really think.
Now, as a writer, do not get me wrong, there are filters in place,
and I have no desire to share any intimate details of my romantic
life, or anything like that, but just to stop avoiding things because
of people's opinions. It feels great!
So, in no particular order, here are a few more things I think most people should think about again, since their opinions seem to be half baked, and indefensible. Here we go.
SEX
Might as well start with God's greatest invention. That's right, sex was God's idea and not the Devil's, and being the father of eight, married to my high school sweetheart, I have a lot of things to say on the subject. First, I believe that God's best is for loving adults to be in a lifelong committed monogamous relationship. Part of the reason for that is that sex, like fire, is awesome, but can be potentially harmful in a lot of ways.
That being said, premarital sex is hardly the worst thing you could ever do. I mean, murder, rape, and a few others would definitely top the list. If my kids are reading this, it is the second worst, next to murder, which is what your mother is going to do when she finds out. So, keep your clothes on!
So, why is it Christians get so freaked out whenever sex gets mentioned, after all, there is an entire book of the Bible devoted to how, when and why you should be doing it! Solomon had some pretty kinky euphemisms as well, but I digress.
Here is the truth, married people, statistically speaking, have more sex than non married people, and report enjoying it more! It's true, we are also more adventurous, having more varied sex than our single counterparts! That's right! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/13/marriage-sex_n_1422644.html
So, what about the young among us? Should we teach them abstinence only? In a perfect world, I believe that everyone would wait for the right person. This is not that world. While it sucks that people other than their parents are frequently the ones to share the details of reproduction with kids, there is one way to handle that. Inform your kids early! Give them as much clinical detail as they can sit still for, as soon as they ask! Do not hide it from them! (not suggesting putting the video of your wild weekend on the big screen) there is a HUGE difference between "private" and "secret".
When we hide things from our kids, we have no one to blame but ourselves for their mishandling of the subject. Once they are old enough to engage in sexual activity, they should know, the good and the bad. Educate your children about stds and birth control as well. While I agree, I don't want my kids giving up before marriage, I don't want grand kids until they have a family to be part of.
So, I think you should talk to them about the beauty of it, admit that it's the most fun you can possibly have inside a human body, and tell them about the dangers of it too. Don't worry that exposure will encourage them to experiment. If you tell it to them in context and share your hope that they will wait for a mate, most kids will want to meet that expectation. Under NO circumstances do I EVER agree with parents shaming, or threatening children regarding sex. True, that while they are minors, they are your responsibility and their actions can effect you, so let them know that. This is not a thing where all of the repercussions always stay between to the two people involved. (watch Jane the Virgin for a hilarious take on how that works)
Your job is to love people, not judge them, including your kids. If you restrict them unnecessarily in this regard, you will regret it. They are going to make their own choices, so grow up and realize that you cannot program, and even if you could, you have made plenty of mistakes, and would not be a good cloning model for the human race any more than anyone else!
Yes, encourage your kids, provide them with a good example, but recognize that they ARE already autonomous, you don't get to grant that to them, they have ALWAYS had the power to make their own choices, just because you managed to make them believe this was not true, it was. They are born with the ability to rebel. It is choice that makes obedience powerful, not coercion.
If your child hurts someone with sexual behavior, as in the case of rape, or child abuse, you must allow the courts to do their job. Do not ever consider covering up for someone you love, as their next target may already be picked out.
DRUGS
I myself, am not a fan. I drink, a very little, something I started at the grand old age of 38, and I have never had more than five beers in a twenty-four hour period, and that was on an adult's only vaca week to Vegas where I had no responsibilities for my kids, or the need to drive. I don't like the way I feel when I take cold medicine, or benadryl and would not be lined up to take advantage of recreational marijuana were it ever made legal here. ( I live in Oklahoma which had prohibition until 1959) I don't like feeling out of control, don't like the burn of alcohol, the feeling of light headedness, or the realization that I am talking way too loud.
So, there you have it, I don't like it they should continue to ban it and jail those who publicly disagree. It will make the world a better place, right? Not exactly. I am a libertarian, and I really need to change my voter registration, so the poor RNC can stop calling me! I believe that drugs should be legal. I think that we have laws protecting people from rape, murder, pedophilia, reckless driving, destruction of private property, larceny, burglary, breaking and entering, trespassing, lude behavior, assault, battery, bank robbery, armed robbery, stalking, harassment, and public indecency. So many laws that protect people from the behaviors most commonly associated with the use of illegal substances, so WHY do we need to criminalize the act of ingesting the substance?
If you want the real answer, follow the money. Start with private prisons being a multi-billion dollar industry, with guaranteed occupancy of 80-90% in many cases. (yep, it's true bit.ly/thesharpenedspoondotcom )
Then look into how much money police and other govt agencies get from seizures of private property http://www.drugwarfacts.org/cms/Forfeiture
Then move on to the fact that this is a primary motivator for the militarization of police forces, and other government expansions, and one could make a very good case that the war on drugs has been good, mainly for one person, Uncle Sam.
I am for decriminalization of most drugs. As I said, there are already laws against all of the seediness and public danger they create. (if they do in fact create danger, we have not had a free society for so long, our perspective on this issue may be a bit skewed) It would empty out our prisons, stop man dangerous no-knock raids that are killing innocents and put a black market out of existence. Tax it, I suppose, although I think all govts on all levels waste more than enough now, and do not deserve any more.
PORN
This one is going to be a bit tricky. But I think there are some things that need to be said. Let me start by saying, that the sex trade is a complete abomination, and in every case where people are subjected to ANY sexual behavior, or performance, through coercion, or threat of violence, or monetary blackmail, or whatever. If a person is not engaging willingly, knowing and believing that they have a choice, the ones "forcing" this behavior should be sent away for a very long time.
I do not believe that there is anything AT ALL dirty, inherently sexual, or obscene about human nudity. Period. It is not the images in these materials that make it what it is, it is our depraved thinking. In the beginning, God created us to commune with him and each other in a perfectly innocent and completely unclothed state. We have the puritans to thank for much of what we believe about human sexuality, and they believed that even during married sex God left the building. Literally, if you died during intercourse, you were eternally "screwed".
I also do not believe that all depictions of the naked human form are pornographic by nature. I have appreciated the beauty in paintings, sculpture and photography without lusting, many times. But just as a glossy car spread can cause the seeds of envy, jealousy and covetousness to grow, so too, these images can be misused. Pornography, to me, is that form that depicts graphically, sexual activity and the human body posed and exposed in ways that are designed to elicit feelings of erotic desire. Not all things erotic are pornographic, either though. This is all my opinion, let's move on.
The purchase of pornographic materials, at least on some level, must be seen as a support to these types of activities, and for that reason, is really not a good thing. That being said, I personally do not agree with much of the teaching that has been prevalent on this subject in the past few decades, on several levels.
First, I do agree that lust is a sin, just as gossip, lying and cheating on your taxes are also sins. It bears the same penalty, Biblically speaking, as do all sins. Pornography leads to lust. It can damage relationships, create unrealistic expectations, and encourages extramarital behaviors.
Now, for the part where I disagree. I do not believe that a single usage of pornography is tantamount to adultery, and I do not agree that it should be grounds for divorce. I think in many, many, cases, some that I am personally aware of, that the use of standard pornographic materials on a casual, or regular, but not compulsive and disruptive level has been seen by many as the same as having an affair. I understand the pain the spouse must feel, betrayal, and the rest. I do. However, in many cases, the party engaged (typically men) has never even contemplated actually approaching another living breathing human being to engage in even a conversation about sex, let alone engaged in the activity.
Yes, I realize that Jesus said that if you look on a woman to lust after her you have committed adultery with her, already in your heart. I did not say it was a good thing. It does occur to me, however, that to hold someone to so high a standard in this one regard, while the wife is watching Real Housewives, engaging in all types of slanderous gossip, overeating and otherwise living in destructive ways, puts way too much emphasis on this subject.
This does not excuse men from their duty to lead a pure life. When you see that over 90% of respondents to almost any poll on the topic admit to having used some type of pornography, it would stand to reason that this is a fairly normal thing. Again, not right, but human, and in most cases forgivable.
I, know what I have said so far will be seen by many as excusing horrific behavior, I hope you hear me when I say, it is not my intent. In a perfect world, all men would marry a woman they truly cherished and thought of as the most beautiful in the world. I have made it my habit to adjust my thinking so that my wife has truly become the object of my desires, and the woman that I measure physical beauty by, but not everyone is going to do that. It does not mean that he is not a good husband, a fantastic provider and faithful to his family.
There are some expectations that the modern world, church in particular, has put on marriage and romance that have little to do with the Biblical picture. Our modern day ideals about romantic love and choices and feelings would be as foreign to someone from the first century as air travel. It is not that they did not experience these things, but they seem to have been more of a bonus than the expected, daily norm.
Beyond the "normal", consensual adult behaviors depicted in pornography, there are other categories, which present the abuse of humans, the inclusion of children and animals. This is not at all what I am talking about, and anyone who habitually seeks out these things should seriously get some counseling, as you present a danger to people around you. This is never okay. Again, it is sin, just like any other, and forgivable, but it should be dealt with before rape, murder, incest, bestiality and other things become a part of it in more than just the fantasies of that individual.
In addition while I think it optimal that all men eliminate pornography from their lives, for those of you who are financially burdening your families, or find your compulsion is interfering with your duties as a provider, husband or father, due to the time, energy and money you are devoting to this habit, stop hiding and find someone to help you. Shame and condemnation should not be a part of this, it is not useful, but regret and repentance are both Godly.
MEDIA
On to something a bit lighter. I believe that all human expression is useful. Some of it shows us what we should be, some of it shows us what to avoid. Art and creative endeavors are a tricky subject to navigate. When it comes to movies, books, music and digital media, I am a pretty open person about what I watch. I watch the things I enjoy. If I find that something disturbs me, or makes it hard for me to be the person I know God is calling me to be, I don't watch it anymore.
There is a concept that I have lived by most of my life. I refuse to use some list of behaviors to avoid and things I cannot do. (well except for murder, adultery, etc, LOL)
Paul said it like this in Corinthians:
If one of the unbelievers invites you and you want to go, eat anything that is set before you without asking questions for conscience' sake. But if anyone says to you, "This is meat sacrificed to idols," do not eat it, for the sake of the one who informed you, and for conscience' sake; I mean not your own conscience, but the other man's; for why is my freedom judged by another's conscience?…
Why indeed? SO, I watch what I want, I read what I want, and I discuss it, like an adult. If I find that I have violated my conscience, I repent and a I do not go back to it. But, I don't need some general consensus of the believers around me, to buy a movie ticket. This is something that many modern believers will all but ignore. Our consciences have all but died from atrophy. You need to exercise it to keep it sharp, or when you need it,and you can't call for backup, it will not be there to protect you.
John tells us we don't need a teacher, Jesus promised to give the Holy Spirit to guide us, God promised OT to write his law on our hearts, and yet, we still think that human consensus is the best way to make individual moral decisions, go figure.
I know there is more, but I think I've said enough for one day. Thanks for reading, I hope it encourages you to think about what you believe.
So, in no particular order, here are a few more things I think most people should think about again, since their opinions seem to be half baked, and indefensible. Here we go.
SEX
Might as well start with God's greatest invention. That's right, sex was God's idea and not the Devil's, and being the father of eight, married to my high school sweetheart, I have a lot of things to say on the subject. First, I believe that God's best is for loving adults to be in a lifelong committed monogamous relationship. Part of the reason for that is that sex, like fire, is awesome, but can be potentially harmful in a lot of ways.
That being said, premarital sex is hardly the worst thing you could ever do. I mean, murder, rape, and a few others would definitely top the list. If my kids are reading this, it is the second worst, next to murder, which is what your mother is going to do when she finds out. So, keep your clothes on!
So, why is it Christians get so freaked out whenever sex gets mentioned, after all, there is an entire book of the Bible devoted to how, when and why you should be doing it! Solomon had some pretty kinky euphemisms as well, but I digress.
Here is the truth, married people, statistically speaking, have more sex than non married people, and report enjoying it more! It's true, we are also more adventurous, having more varied sex than our single counterparts! That's right! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/13/marriage-sex_n_1422644.html
So, what about the young among us? Should we teach them abstinence only? In a perfect world, I believe that everyone would wait for the right person. This is not that world. While it sucks that people other than their parents are frequently the ones to share the details of reproduction with kids, there is one way to handle that. Inform your kids early! Give them as much clinical detail as they can sit still for, as soon as they ask! Do not hide it from them! (not suggesting putting the video of your wild weekend on the big screen) there is a HUGE difference between "private" and "secret".
When we hide things from our kids, we have no one to blame but ourselves for their mishandling of the subject. Once they are old enough to engage in sexual activity, they should know, the good and the bad. Educate your children about stds and birth control as well. While I agree, I don't want my kids giving up before marriage, I don't want grand kids until they have a family to be part of.
So, I think you should talk to them about the beauty of it, admit that it's the most fun you can possibly have inside a human body, and tell them about the dangers of it too. Don't worry that exposure will encourage them to experiment. If you tell it to them in context and share your hope that they will wait for a mate, most kids will want to meet that expectation. Under NO circumstances do I EVER agree with parents shaming, or threatening children regarding sex. True, that while they are minors, they are your responsibility and their actions can effect you, so let them know that. This is not a thing where all of the repercussions always stay between to the two people involved. (watch Jane the Virgin for a hilarious take on how that works)
Your job is to love people, not judge them, including your kids. If you restrict them unnecessarily in this regard, you will regret it. They are going to make their own choices, so grow up and realize that you cannot program, and even if you could, you have made plenty of mistakes, and would not be a good cloning model for the human race any more than anyone else!
Yes, encourage your kids, provide them with a good example, but recognize that they ARE already autonomous, you don't get to grant that to them, they have ALWAYS had the power to make their own choices, just because you managed to make them believe this was not true, it was. They are born with the ability to rebel. It is choice that makes obedience powerful, not coercion.
If your child hurts someone with sexual behavior, as in the case of rape, or child abuse, you must allow the courts to do their job. Do not ever consider covering up for someone you love, as their next target may already be picked out.
DRUGS
I myself, am not a fan. I drink, a very little, something I started at the grand old age of 38, and I have never had more than five beers in a twenty-four hour period, and that was on an adult's only vaca week to Vegas where I had no responsibilities for my kids, or the need to drive. I don't like the way I feel when I take cold medicine, or benadryl and would not be lined up to take advantage of recreational marijuana were it ever made legal here. ( I live in Oklahoma which had prohibition until 1959) I don't like feeling out of control, don't like the burn of alcohol, the feeling of light headedness, or the realization that I am talking way too loud.
So, there you have it, I don't like it they should continue to ban it and jail those who publicly disagree. It will make the world a better place, right? Not exactly. I am a libertarian, and I really need to change my voter registration, so the poor RNC can stop calling me! I believe that drugs should be legal. I think that we have laws protecting people from rape, murder, pedophilia, reckless driving, destruction of private property, larceny, burglary, breaking and entering, trespassing, lude behavior, assault, battery, bank robbery, armed robbery, stalking, harassment, and public indecency. So many laws that protect people from the behaviors most commonly associated with the use of illegal substances, so WHY do we need to criminalize the act of ingesting the substance?
If you want the real answer, follow the money. Start with private prisons being a multi-billion dollar industry, with guaranteed occupancy of 80-90% in many cases. (yep, it's true bit.ly/thesharpenedspoondotcom )
Then look into how much money police and other govt agencies get from seizures of private property http://www.drugwarfacts.org/cms/Forfeiture
Then move on to the fact that this is a primary motivator for the militarization of police forces, and other government expansions, and one could make a very good case that the war on drugs has been good, mainly for one person, Uncle Sam.
I am for decriminalization of most drugs. As I said, there are already laws against all of the seediness and public danger they create. (if they do in fact create danger, we have not had a free society for so long, our perspective on this issue may be a bit skewed) It would empty out our prisons, stop man dangerous no-knock raids that are killing innocents and put a black market out of existence. Tax it, I suppose, although I think all govts on all levels waste more than enough now, and do not deserve any more.
PORN
This one is going to be a bit tricky. But I think there are some things that need to be said. Let me start by saying, that the sex trade is a complete abomination, and in every case where people are subjected to ANY sexual behavior, or performance, through coercion, or threat of violence, or monetary blackmail, or whatever. If a person is not engaging willingly, knowing and believing that they have a choice, the ones "forcing" this behavior should be sent away for a very long time.
I do not believe that there is anything AT ALL dirty, inherently sexual, or obscene about human nudity. Period. It is not the images in these materials that make it what it is, it is our depraved thinking. In the beginning, God created us to commune with him and each other in a perfectly innocent and completely unclothed state. We have the puritans to thank for much of what we believe about human sexuality, and they believed that even during married sex God left the building. Literally, if you died during intercourse, you were eternally "screwed".
I also do not believe that all depictions of the naked human form are pornographic by nature. I have appreciated the beauty in paintings, sculpture and photography without lusting, many times. But just as a glossy car spread can cause the seeds of envy, jealousy and covetousness to grow, so too, these images can be misused. Pornography, to me, is that form that depicts graphically, sexual activity and the human body posed and exposed in ways that are designed to elicit feelings of erotic desire. Not all things erotic are pornographic, either though. This is all my opinion, let's move on.
The purchase of pornographic materials, at least on some level, must be seen as a support to these types of activities, and for that reason, is really not a good thing. That being said, I personally do not agree with much of the teaching that has been prevalent on this subject in the past few decades, on several levels.
First, I do agree that lust is a sin, just as gossip, lying and cheating on your taxes are also sins. It bears the same penalty, Biblically speaking, as do all sins. Pornography leads to lust. It can damage relationships, create unrealistic expectations, and encourages extramarital behaviors.
Now, for the part where I disagree. I do not believe that a single usage of pornography is tantamount to adultery, and I do not agree that it should be grounds for divorce. I think in many, many, cases, some that I am personally aware of, that the use of standard pornographic materials on a casual, or regular, but not compulsive and disruptive level has been seen by many as the same as having an affair. I understand the pain the spouse must feel, betrayal, and the rest. I do. However, in many cases, the party engaged (typically men) has never even contemplated actually approaching another living breathing human being to engage in even a conversation about sex, let alone engaged in the activity.
Yes, I realize that Jesus said that if you look on a woman to lust after her you have committed adultery with her, already in your heart. I did not say it was a good thing. It does occur to me, however, that to hold someone to so high a standard in this one regard, while the wife is watching Real Housewives, engaging in all types of slanderous gossip, overeating and otherwise living in destructive ways, puts way too much emphasis on this subject.
This does not excuse men from their duty to lead a pure life. When you see that over 90% of respondents to almost any poll on the topic admit to having used some type of pornography, it would stand to reason that this is a fairly normal thing. Again, not right, but human, and in most cases forgivable.
I, know what I have said so far will be seen by many as excusing horrific behavior, I hope you hear me when I say, it is not my intent. In a perfect world, all men would marry a woman they truly cherished and thought of as the most beautiful in the world. I have made it my habit to adjust my thinking so that my wife has truly become the object of my desires, and the woman that I measure physical beauty by, but not everyone is going to do that. It does not mean that he is not a good husband, a fantastic provider and faithful to his family.
There are some expectations that the modern world, church in particular, has put on marriage and romance that have little to do with the Biblical picture. Our modern day ideals about romantic love and choices and feelings would be as foreign to someone from the first century as air travel. It is not that they did not experience these things, but they seem to have been more of a bonus than the expected, daily norm.
Beyond the "normal", consensual adult behaviors depicted in pornography, there are other categories, which present the abuse of humans, the inclusion of children and animals. This is not at all what I am talking about, and anyone who habitually seeks out these things should seriously get some counseling, as you present a danger to people around you. This is never okay. Again, it is sin, just like any other, and forgivable, but it should be dealt with before rape, murder, incest, bestiality and other things become a part of it in more than just the fantasies of that individual.
In addition while I think it optimal that all men eliminate pornography from their lives, for those of you who are financially burdening your families, or find your compulsion is interfering with your duties as a provider, husband or father, due to the time, energy and money you are devoting to this habit, stop hiding and find someone to help you. Shame and condemnation should not be a part of this, it is not useful, but regret and repentance are both Godly.
MEDIA
On to something a bit lighter. I believe that all human expression is useful. Some of it shows us what we should be, some of it shows us what to avoid. Art and creative endeavors are a tricky subject to navigate. When it comes to movies, books, music and digital media, I am a pretty open person about what I watch. I watch the things I enjoy. If I find that something disturbs me, or makes it hard for me to be the person I know God is calling me to be, I don't watch it anymore.
There is a concept that I have lived by most of my life. I refuse to use some list of behaviors to avoid and things I cannot do. (well except for murder, adultery, etc, LOL)
Paul said it like this in Corinthians:
If one of the unbelievers invites you and you want to go, eat anything that is set before you without asking questions for conscience' sake. But if anyone says to you, "This is meat sacrificed to idols," do not eat it, for the sake of the one who informed you, and for conscience' sake; I mean not your own conscience, but the other man's; for why is my freedom judged by another's conscience?…
Why indeed? SO, I watch what I want, I read what I want, and I discuss it, like an adult. If I find that I have violated my conscience, I repent and a I do not go back to it. But, I don't need some general consensus of the believers around me, to buy a movie ticket. This is something that many modern believers will all but ignore. Our consciences have all but died from atrophy. You need to exercise it to keep it sharp, or when you need it,and you can't call for backup, it will not be there to protect you.
John tells us we don't need a teacher, Jesus promised to give the Holy Spirit to guide us, God promised OT to write his law on our hearts, and yet, we still think that human consensus is the best way to make individual moral decisions, go figure.
I know there is more, but I think I've said enough for one day. Thanks for reading, I hope it encourages you to think about what you believe.
Wednesday, October 22, 2014
I figure my main job as a parent, is to
ensure that my kids do not grow up to be assholes.
I have had this sentence rattling
around in my head for years, and this is the very first time I have
ever put it down on paper, without editing that last word with
asterisks. Good grief. Here I am a man of forty-three years old, with
eight kids, and a wife of 22 years, and I just now have the courage
to put swearing into print. Sheesh.
For some of you, that last part lost
you, you don't find it courageous, you find it reprehensible,and yet,
I am dead certain sure, that if you have kids, you appreciate the
sentiment. For me, it is especially challenging, since I have allowed
myself to become one and am now in recovery, assaholics anonymous, as
I heard it put on a sitcom the other night.
Believe me when I say that anyone who
had been through the stupid crap I have been through, been kicked
between the uprights emotionally speaking, as many times as I have
would probably feel justified in just drifting off into
crotchetiness, but I happen to think there are still things for me to
accomplish in this life that are being hindered by my attitude.
It really all came crashing in on me
the other night while perusing my junk mail, which is pretty much all
the email I get. There was one article there about how successful
people deal with toxic people,and, for whatever reason, I was drawn
to this piece of flotsam in my inbox. So, I read it. Do you know what
I realized? I have never given a damn about how to deal with toxic
people and have pretty much written off every bit of advice that I
have ever seen in that vein for one simple reason, which I did not
realize until the moment I read that title, I am a toxic person.
If you have ever had a similar
realization about yourself, you will understand, why after
forty-three years of life, this came as a surprise to me. The rest of
you will probably not get it, but I am going to write about it
anyway, because this is what I need to do right now,and if you don't
think this applies to you there are about a half billion blogs out
there all written for similarly perfect people go read one of them.
Anyway, as I was saying, it hit me right between the uprights, with a
sinking certainty, that I never needed to know how to deal, cope,
work around these difficult people, because I understood them as only
a native could, I was their king.
It had always escaped me, the reason
that I was frequently socially swept aside, not so much rejected, as
marginalized. Included, but not in every way. Part of it was my
reticence to be a joiner, I have never been a true blue fan of
anything much, but part of it was that I have been making people
uncomfortable for a very long time, and it needs to stop. That was my
realization and it took me completely off guard. My wife, if she were
reading this would be shaking her head by now, because she has been
telling me this for over a decade, but of course, I can't see through
her eyes. I am one of those people who need to learn everything for
myself.
One of the weirdest parts of this
realization was this: not only was I being a jerk, but a big part of
the reason, and this is going to sound weird, was because I was
trying to be nice. Truly. Let me see if I can explain this. For one
thing, I am a know-it-all. Really, I am. I remember the oddest things
and rarely forget, plus my work history has led me into so many
different fields, and I read nearly anything I can get my hands on,
so I genuinely know a little about a lot of things, and feel pretty
comfortable sharing it.. especially when someone seems to be having
trouble with something I think I know. For another, while I am a
fairly forthright individual, I am also very sensitive, and so, I
frequently avoid saying things that I think are incendiary. But, the
problem is, those things also, frequently happen to be true, and
repressing them does not make it better, but it sure makes for some
beautiful fireworks when the repressed stuff I should have dealt with
comes out later at some awkward, inopportune moment.
In addition to all of this, I am in
love with being right. So much so that I will frequently find some
way in which I am right even in the most obvious of “you're wrong
and you know it” kind of moments. It comes off as pure arrogance,
even when the intention is to save face myself, it feels, to the
other person, that I am trying to make them look bad, forcing them to
accept the thing I am trying to avoid myself.
Then, there's the fact that I never,
ever, not one time in my whole life, have ever backed down from an
argument. So, wrap that package up and what do you have? TADA toxic
person in a box! Throw in a smidge of impulse control and a whole
lotta smart ass, with a bit of a temper (not given to physical, but
verbal violence) and you have a lot of fun at parties, am I right?
So, all of this comes rolling at me
through one little email, and amazingly, the take away for me, was
this: I need to be more honest with people about how I feel. Although
I have always thought myself to be overbearing, I need to have the
courage to speak up when something truly bothers me, instead of
waiting until it pisses me off. I need to stop cramming myself into
uncomfortable situations, to try and help. I need to learn to mind my
own damn business. I need to detox occasionally, in private, to
reduce the risk of infecting others.
So, what does this have to do with my
first sentence? Apparently nothing, but, my challenge to myself right
now is to write what's real, and this realization is real for me
right now. I don't really know much about parenting anyway.
Everything I do know was self taught, trial and error and somehow my
kids are turning out okay, despite me, which I hope gives everyone
who reads this hope!
You may be thinking, sheesh this guy is
a mess, makes me feel better about myself, and I can honestly say,
congratulations! Glad you don't have my issues to deal with, but I
bet you have your own, we'll get to those later. For now, I am
feeling just a little bit better, learning how to live in truth,
courage and humility. Maybe I'll get back to that not raising
assholes thing in another post.
Tuesday, October 21, 2014
I am done worrying about what will
happen if I just come out and say what I think about stuff. It's
meaningless bullshit to not be able to just put the words on the page
because you are so bound up in what somebody will feel about what you
wrote. So, here is the deal, for years, I worried about what God
thought, then He and I made peace with me being completely bass
ackwards wrong some times, okay, most of the time, but that didn't
stop me from locking myself down, see, there was still this part of
me, this sick little, grew up in an environment that was conservative
but not nearly as oppressive as I probably thought, little kid, who
wanted people to feel all nice and cuddly and want to kiss puppies
when they were done reading whatever it was, so, I would look for
those kinds of things to share, and even once that stopped being the
case, I just didn't really feel that I was free to share whatever I
wanted to. I would lock down my vocabulary, or pull a punch to save
face, or share things tied to some specific verse, or idea, or try to
figure out what the hell people wanted to read anyway, or write to try and change someone's mind, or get them to agree, and you know
what? I am just done to death with that, so here I am and I am going
to say a lot of crap today, so hang on have fun, leave a comment,
start an argument, go crazy, I don't care anymore, because this is
what I have needed to do for a long time. So here goes!
Politics!
Most of you have never even really
thought about what you want the world to be, what you wish it was if
it could be just the way it should be, which I think is where it
starts in having any kind of opinion about it. Furthermore, just
about everyone I know is parroting someone else, as if they didn't
have a single thought in their own head that was worth bringing to
the front of their faces and pushing out with their lips the teeth
and the tip of the tongue. (actors, you may get that, the rest, won't
but I do!)
Both parties are hell bent on
destroying what is left of America's liberty because they both
believe that somehow freedom can come from giving the right person
control. LOOK IT UP! Freedom is what happens when no one has control!
Liberty is the state in which a person is free to do the right thing,
or not, of course there should be consequences for things such as
murder, rape, thievery, destruction of property, personal injury,
fraud and the list goes on, but damn it, the more you restrict
others, the bigger that monster government grows, and it just looking
for one thing, POWER, and where does it go to find it? YOUR LIBERTY!
So wise the heck up and start thinking it through. The limits you put
on others are creating new governmental powers, which will be used
wholesale to restrict anything that gets in their way!
Gay Marriage!
Yep, I said it, and I do not mean, just
“marriage” why? Because this is a fairly new concept to most of
us. Here is what I think: don't care. That is right, I do not care.
Because I do not think that government is a good source for choices
on the issue of right and wrong. Ever. Ever, under any circumstance,
nope, not then either! When you legislate morality, you give them the
power to arbitrate the truth. This, in most people's minds, will
change perception of what is true, based on what is legal, or not
legal.
For myself, I have always believed that
the truth is homosexuality is a sin, but in recent years, I have come
to believe that it is not my job to eradicate anybody's sin but my
own! So, do I still believe it's wrong? I don't know, and I am
actually okay with that. Does the Bible speak against it? Yep, sure
seems to, in its current state, in a couple of passages, along with
some other things like “lying”, but we don't kick them out of the
church or try to subjugate them into changing their minds, unless
their lies effect us, so, here is what I am saying, love people, and
mind your own business. Now, if your gay neighbor wants to parade his
sex life in front of your kids, that is a different issue, but public
decency and private adult choices that don't concern you are two
separate issues.
I know there are people who will take
issue with this, but here is what I say to that, bring it on! I am
not stating that my opinion is the end all be all, what I am saying
is that my former attitude towards homosexuality was keeping me from
loving people the way Christ taught me to, so I choose to shift my
focus. If anyone was considering this, and felt that they had a
choice, I would advise them against it, because I think it is a very
hard life to live, mostly, sad to say, due to judgmental people who
mostly don't even think about their belief, or their opinion, but
accept it wholesale, stamped, sealed and approved from a pulpit every
Sunday, I'll get to that next!
Church!
As to the modern day, mainline,
interdenominational, non-denominational,
presbaptimethocatholinessofchrist? Shut the doors! That's right.
Jesus said that every tree that does not bear good fruit should be
cut down and thrown into the fire. If your church's primary reason to
exist is to eradicate sin, you missed it, if it's there to be a
social club for positive living, great! Call it that, and shuck the
tax free status, if it's all about politics and winning things for
Jesus in a way that he never endorsed, shut the doors! There are two
groups of people that I think should never have lifetime careers, one
is pastors and one is politicians, for the same reason!
God moves, he doesn't stand still. He
focuses on something until he deems the time has come to move on to
the next thing, and he does it. Listening to the same people spout
the same ideas every week for ten, twenty, thirty, or even fifty
years, does not generally lend itself to staying in tune with that!
Want some examples? Look at who God raised up to be leaders in
Israel, did any of them go about it in the same way? No. They had
differing styles, differing focuses, differing methods, and we seem
to think that if we can just pigeon hole the right way to be
righteous, and narrow it down, and refine it, we can really make God
happy! Look around you at the world we live in, his first commandment
to men, before the church even opened its doors, included taking care
of the planet and being responsible for the people on it, and the
earth itself! So, pat yourself on the back for your weekend retreat,
and all the introspection you can muster, but we have a lot of work
to do and it needs to start today, and as long as we all sit behind
the various facades we think of as churches, it is never going to
happen!
YOU!
You are made in the image of almighty
God! You are the crowning achievement of His creation, the one that
he chose to personally commune with. You are awesome! Stop it! Stop
accepting this nonsense that you are so full of evil that nothing
that comes out of you is right! Those verses, if you look at the
context, are all aimed at times when wicked men were overrunning the
righteous! That is not about you! You love your family, you love your
coworkers, you try hard to be decent to people around you, but you
got some explaining to do also.
See, while some things are fringe items
on the Biblical agenda, like homosexuality, for example, some things
are very clear and get mentioned again, and again, and again! So,
here we go!
MONEY!
For the love of money is a root of all
sorts of evil, and some by longing for it have wandered away from the
faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.
READ IT AGAIN! This verse is one of the
most ignored verses of the last thirty years of mainstream church
history! You are not to love money. Jesus had a lot to say about it.
Most of it bad. I know, Dave Ramsey is reallllly popular, but guess
what? He has made a huge fortune telling you what you wanted to hear,
which is that you can pursue God and Money! However, that is not what
scripture teaches at all! Jesus said this "The eye is the lamp
of the body; so then if your eye is clear, your whole body will be
full of light. "But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be
full of darkness. If then the light that is in you is darkness, how
great is the darkness! "No one can serve two masters; for either
he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to one
and despise the other. You cannot serve God and wealth.
Do I think this means that you cannot
have money and serve God? No, but this is the eye of the needle Jesus
was referring to when he talked about how difficult it would be for
someone already having wealth to enter the kingdom! He refers in that
passage to the light in you being darkness. In other places we are
told that Satan masquerades as an angel of light. Perhaps this refers
to a false belief about money? I don't have enough energy to flesh
this out right now, but here is my challenge, THINK!
Think about your attitude towards
money. Why do you spend the bulk of your day trying to get more of
it, many of you doing things you would never do if it were not for
the money? Why do feel the way you do about spending it, giving it,
saving it? Look for yourself. Study it for yourself, don't take the
word of some pastor or teacher with a vested interest. If nothing
else, just read the words of Jesus and see what you come away with if
you don't add anybody else's interpretation into the mix.
Briefly, I think he said this, wealth,
or abundance, which is a much better word, comes when we seek the
kingdom first, but surprisingly, the more you do, the less it matters
to you how much you have, or what anybody else does with theirs. If
you have to struggle to hear God when it comes to giving, I suggest
you have an issue in this regard. I suggest that if you are easily,
readily, and regularly engaging in judging others for their
abundance, or lack, or using it for a measure of any kind, you might
have an issue.
PASTORS AND OTHER “PROFESSIONAL”
CHRISTIANS
I already said a few things, but here
is what we know: the word pastor is mentioned one time in the NT.
Yet, we virtually center our entire religious observance around the
opinions, ideas and thoughts of a single man in each congregation of
believers. Meanwhile, there may be hundreds, thousands, or even tens
of thousands following him. How many of them have to fall before we
understand this? They are men, there is only one mediator between God
and man, the man Jesus Christ.
So many in our day are making bank on
the superstitions and half beliefs of entire groups of people that it
makes me sick to think about it. The Christian bookstores are filled
to overflowing with the crap they spew about every topic under the
sun, ninety-nine point nine percent of which can only be called
Biblical under the loosest, most lacking in context understandings
possible. We were told that we did not need a teacher
As for you, the anointing you received
from him remains in you, and you do not need anyone to teach you. But
as his anointing teaches you about all things and as that anointing
is real, not counterfeit--just as it has taught you, remain in him.
This is believed to be from the Apostle
John, the same John whose gospel we find at the front of our NT. He
was expressing something here, that if you know the spirit inside,
that deposit that is said to be there to tell of things to come, you
cannot be led astray. So, believers, we should be more reliant on
what the spirit inside tells us, and not so quick to jump on
something because someone can outline a “scriptural” case for it,
remember, he is likely trying to sell a book, which he hopes will
become a lesson series, which will them spring into a video series, a
series of lectures, and if he's really lucky, an entire series of
conferences, with tens of thousands repeating his ideas, and paying
lots and lots of money to do so.
So, do I think there are still
trustworthy men in professional ministry, yes, absolutely, but even
they should be held accountable, and their teachings questioned in
light of what you read, and what you hear from that inner still small
voice!
JESUS!
Last, but certainly not least, I want
to share what I personally believe about Jesus of Nazareth. Much of
this is still because of my upbringing, but nothing in my experience
has contradicted it, so this is still my belief.
I believe that Jesus was born of a
virgin, lived a pure and sinless life (not a life without mistakes,
by the way, he learned to be a carpenter, after all) Taught a new
kingdom not built with hands, which he left to his disciples to carry
on. He subjected himself to the Romans who crucified Him, through the
will of the Jewish high court, died, was buried and was raised again.
I believe he has ascended to the Father, and will return bodily once
again at the end of the age to establish his Kingdom with those who
believe.
I also believe that He is one of the
most misquoted, misunderstood, and misinterpreted teachers and
prophets in the history of the world. I think that reading His word,
unfiltered, uninterpreted, without commentary, will change your life.
It will disturb your beliefs, especially your “christian” beliefs
in some cases, and make you long for the world he describes when he
says, the Kingdom of God is like.....
HELL AND HEAVEN
I don't know. Really, I just don't know
anymore how I feel about all of this, and before you start throwing
stones at me, please, think! Why are you so invested in the idea of
eternal, for always, forever and ever torment and punishment of
another human being? What is it that makes some people almost
downright giddy at the aspect that some, not them of course, but
some, and in many cases MOST of the humans throughout all of history
will be deposited into a great lake of fire?
Yes, the Bible does mention it, but
there is precious little in the way of a treatise on this. The
passages that mention are few,and far between in comparison to some
things, like LOVE for example. Also, the concepts, between OT and NT
are not cohesive. The belief that most mainstream Christians ascent
to is a third concept that does not really fit with either of these,
and that is just in the reading.
As for heaven? The concept I was taught
as a child does not seem nearly big enough for an afterlife upgrade
designed by the creator of all of this magnificent stuff we see
before us on the earthly plane.
I do believe in the afterlife and that
rewards and consequences will be awarded. But, I am not at all sure
that they are as absolute, or as permanent, in our way of thinking,
as they have been described. Look around you, the creation we
currently inhabit is constantly in flux. It is always revealing new
things, can you really believe in a static world beyond this that
NEVER CHANGES, in the way we hear those words?
At any rate, it does nothing to dampen
my appetite for sharing Jesus and His Teachings, I am not a
universalist, because any God who saves people who don't want saving
makes no sense to me either. So, I am open to discussing and learning
more about this, and ultimately, it changes nothing. It changes
nothing because God still calls me to love Him with all of my brains,
brawn, my eternal being, and to love my neighbor to the point that I
think of them as at least as important as I am.
Oh man, that was exhausting. Please,
argue with me, comments are welcome, shout, agree, disagree, share
your point of view, whatever, but don't hold back. Learn to explore
what you think, what you feel what you know, what you believe. You
may find out things are not at all as they seem in your world. You
might even change your mind on some things. But mostly, you will KNOW
where what you are saying comes from. Yes, keep your Bible close, but
keep the God that promised to make his home inside of you even
closer.
Saturday, October 11, 2014
Tonight I met a man who really made me think about what I am doing with my life, and why. His name is Paul, and he left Pennsylvania to relocate to New Mexico, on a recumbent bicycle, with a tiny trailer. http://www.signsoflifeonearth.com/
In the course of our conversation, I questioned myself a lot, as to why I do what I do, and what I really want to do. Some of you know that up until five years ago, I passionately chased a dream to own and direct my own theatre company. The reality of eight kids and our daily expenses made it impossible to keep going, so I had to reluctantly let it go, and have been somewhat adrift ever since.
For nearly twenty years, I have been self-employed in some form or other, often multiple forms at a time, and I do enjoy the freedom of it, but of late, the idea that there is something bigger I should be spending my life at is almost inescapable.I know, if you go back through this blog, you will find this as a theme.
I have also written about the fact that I have believed since youth, that God is calling me to full time ministry, but there are several dilemmas in that that I am wrestling with, even as I write this. So, at the risk of oversharing, here it is in a nutshell:
First, on more than one occasion in my life, it has been said to me that there is a call on my life to lead people in serving God. I have never disagreed with this, and actively pursued it up until my early thirties, when I all but gave up due to many, many disappointing and hurtful experiences with "christians".
I have all but given up on the institutional church and am not at all sure what Christ intended, but I am pretty sure that none of what I have personally experienced, in my highly varied church experience is it. I have seen shadows of it, in bits and pieces, but most of what I see that matches up with his His "invisible kingdom" is the fringe stuff that happens unintentionally in church communities from time to time,and generally gets shut down once it is recognized.
The church I see when I read the gospel is an ethereal thing. It does not look the same in all places, and does not serve in the same way each time it appears. It is a patchwork quilt of personalities and ideas that seem to flow into one another almost randomly, not a codified, systematic belief system that can be explained and memorized and charted by anyone willing to sit in a lecture hall long enough to hear all of the explanations surrounding it.
To begin with, all of the recorded words of its founder could fit between the pages of a single modern novel, yet the books that explain it fill libraries. It is, at it's core, the simplest philosophy that has ever been recorded, Love God with everything you are and share that love with everyone you meet. But, we are inclined to more complicated belief systems, and so we add definitions and explanations. We explain the whole thing to death and insist on our way of understanding it as the only way, while millions of others insist the same thing.
We say we believe in a salvation of Faith, through Grace, and that works cannot save, but then we build lists of Thou Shalts,and Shalt Nots that put the Levetical law to shame for its brevity. In truth, even if taken at its most literal, there are very few things that scripture dictates against, and many of those never even enter into the conversation when it comes to modern "righteousness".
So, I am going to be inviting anyone who wants to come, to meet with me on a regular basis to study and discuss what church should be, and what seeking the kingdom first is really all about, with no preconceived notion of what that "looks like", or what will become of it. Here are ten things I think the church should do, based on my reading of the teachings of Jesus.
In the course of our conversation, I questioned myself a lot, as to why I do what I do, and what I really want to do. Some of you know that up until five years ago, I passionately chased a dream to own and direct my own theatre company. The reality of eight kids and our daily expenses made it impossible to keep going, so I had to reluctantly let it go, and have been somewhat adrift ever since.
For nearly twenty years, I have been self-employed in some form or other, often multiple forms at a time, and I do enjoy the freedom of it, but of late, the idea that there is something bigger I should be spending my life at is almost inescapable.I know, if you go back through this blog, you will find this as a theme.
I have also written about the fact that I have believed since youth, that God is calling me to full time ministry, but there are several dilemmas in that that I am wrestling with, even as I write this. So, at the risk of oversharing, here it is in a nutshell:
First, on more than one occasion in my life, it has been said to me that there is a call on my life to lead people in serving God. I have never disagreed with this, and actively pursued it up until my early thirties, when I all but gave up due to many, many disappointing and hurtful experiences with "christians".
I have all but given up on the institutional church and am not at all sure what Christ intended, but I am pretty sure that none of what I have personally experienced, in my highly varied church experience is it. I have seen shadows of it, in bits and pieces, but most of what I see that matches up with his His "invisible kingdom" is the fringe stuff that happens unintentionally in church communities from time to time,and generally gets shut down once it is recognized.
The church I see when I read the gospel is an ethereal thing. It does not look the same in all places, and does not serve in the same way each time it appears. It is a patchwork quilt of personalities and ideas that seem to flow into one another almost randomly, not a codified, systematic belief system that can be explained and memorized and charted by anyone willing to sit in a lecture hall long enough to hear all of the explanations surrounding it.
To begin with, all of the recorded words of its founder could fit between the pages of a single modern novel, yet the books that explain it fill libraries. It is, at it's core, the simplest philosophy that has ever been recorded, Love God with everything you are and share that love with everyone you meet. But, we are inclined to more complicated belief systems, and so we add definitions and explanations. We explain the whole thing to death and insist on our way of understanding it as the only way, while millions of others insist the same thing.
We say we believe in a salvation of Faith, through Grace, and that works cannot save, but then we build lists of Thou Shalts,and Shalt Nots that put the Levetical law to shame for its brevity. In truth, even if taken at its most literal, there are very few things that scripture dictates against, and many of those never even enter into the conversation when it comes to modern "righteousness".
So, I am going to be inviting anyone who wants to come, to meet with me on a regular basis to study and discuss what church should be, and what seeking the kingdom first is really all about, with no preconceived notion of what that "looks like", or what will become of it. Here are ten things I think the church should do, based on my reading of the teachings of Jesus.
- The church should welcome anyone who comes to them, whether they openly claim to seek God, believe in a specific doctrine, or don't do either of those, period.
- The church should give without thinking to gain in return, and this includes gaining by seeing their gift used wisely, there should be no gift in one hand, list of rules for finding a deserving receiver in the other.
- The church should understand that their best explanations of who and what God is are all based on metaphors and figurative language, and should be willing to hear others experiences with an open heart and an ear to the spirit of discernment.
- The church should spend at least as much time on promoting righteousness, and being decent citizens of the planet as it should spend on "combating evil" and "hating sin" Our example of love should be our main attraction
- The church should be a place of refuge for the weary, regardless of their past, present, or future. We should not love until we believe we have exhausted all avenues of convincing someone to "accept Jesus" we should be about 70x7 for the same offense in a single day
- The church should be about peace on a personal, community, national and global level, period. We should not glorify, or condone violence for violence, since our savior taught us that this is no longer the way
- The church should not seek political solutions to spiritual problems. PS, every problem on this planet, according the book you claim to believe in, is spiritual at its root. We should be salt and light, we should strive to preserve, and enlighten in all times, in all places.
- The church should not make decisions based on numbers, or money, since Jesus taught that we cannot serve both God and the world's wealth. The church should work to support its members,and not always the other way around, as the example was given in the first century.
- The church should be led by its members, not dependent on "professional christians" to carry out its work. The word "pastor" is mentioned in the NT once in a list of other leaders that included apostles, prophets, teachers, and preachers. A plurality of interdependent leadership, accountable to the body is what is indicated in scripture, not one man who speaks for God. That system died at the cross, there is now one intermediary, and he is not among us in the flesh.
- The church should strive to be revelational, not relevant. We are to be the ones who show people what life is really all about, and that does not mean just singing songs and reading our favorite verses, it means working to complete the great commission, which is an extension of the commands given to the first Adam, to fill the earth and have dominion over it. THIS DOES NOT MEAN TO HAVE CONTROL THROUGH A POLITICAL OR RELIGIOUS INSTITUTION it means we are responsible to God for the condition of this planet and its people, and we are directly responsible to love on the lives we come into contact with in any way possible. Love is contagious, and we should be about the business of infecting as many as possible.
Thursday, September 4, 2014
After moving through six states before
the age of thirteen, is it any wonder that I picture myself some sort
of story teller? HA, it is no wonder that two of my first three
novels feature moving vans and old beater cars, a staple of my
growing up years as a church of christ preacher's kid.
My first novel was started on a Royal
manual typewriter in the summer of 1985. I earned the money from
cutting grass, which I hated, so I decided to turn it into something
that I loved, books! Unfortunately for the world, that particular
literary masterwork was never to appear in print, since a technical
glitch in the form of a broken ribbon, stopped me cold on page 48. I
have since lost the pages, but from what I remember it was pretty
epic.
I kept writing. My next venue was a
Wednesday night youth group, where we wrote comedy and drama sketches
as a team. It was one heck of team, with guys like Christopher
Jennings, Dave Lewis, Marty Taylor, Ryan Hackworth, Jennifer Haggard,
Derek Graves and too many others to count. It was a great learning
experience. You found out what worked and what didn't right away.
Then there was a musical called Boxcar
Limousine that never quite saw the light of day, about the prodigal
son, set in the old west. It was inspired by a piece Wesley Brainard
and Mark Taylor cooked up for a Metro Church day at Frontier City. It
was probably better than I would give it credit for, but since I
never got the music past humming the tunes and writing the lyrics,
we'll never know, will we?
Then there was a long dry spell, during
which I directed about thirty stage plays and musicals and didn't
have time to write. When it ended, I was walking home from my theater
one night, and I told God, either give me the money for the rights to
the piece I wanted to produce, or let me write my own. So, he did. It
took me all of ten minutes to outline the plot of what was to become
“What Goes Up” a play I produced at Family Theatre Warehouse with
my friends Chad Anderson, Tim Morris, Dawn I cannot remember her last
name, but she was funny, Michelle Howe, Tim Burgess, Michael Morris
and some others. From there, I just kept going, “Advice From a
Busboy” was next with Tom Sawyer, Peggy Hoshal, Sarah Nilson, Roger
Redden, and I am sure a few others. We had a blast.
But, unfortunately, theatre is a very
expensive way to share stories, and we couldn't keep it going.
Fast forward through two years of
online writing for a content mill, which taught me a lot about
writing fundamentals, a year and a half in social media marketing,
which made me a mad skilled blogger, and down to today!
So, towards the end of Family Theatre
Warehouse, I wrote this little novella, or so I thought. Turns out it
was actually long enough to be a novel. I first published it on
Lulu.com to see it in print, I was so excited! I think Stephen
Anderson, and Jenny Dunning were the only ones to read it at the
time! HA!
Now, I have decided, no one who has
ever read my work said anything like, “needs a lot of work”, or
that they even did not like it. Even my friend, Rene Gutteridge,
author extraordinaire, who allowed me to crew on her awesome screen
translation of the novel Skid, which she wrote, told me it was time
to find an agent.
Well, I don't think I'm up for it, and
after reading as much as I have about indie authors, I have decided
to become one. I hope all of you will be patient with me, as I will
unabashedly promote my stuff, without being obnoxious, I hope, until
it sells, A LOT! So, if you want me to shut up, help me get it
started! Lol. Anyway, here is the plan, Wishmonger got a facelift and
is up for download, http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00M5MU37Q
next up is The Sons of Thunder, a story about a pastor who drops out
of traditional church in favor of following the teaching of Jesus,
yeah, it's a comedy. Anyway, here's a snippet from it. Hope you like!
Let me set this up, Tru, our hero, has
just found out that he is losing the pastorate of a church he
started. He goes on a morning news show to do an interview with his
ex-associate pastor along for the ride, this is part of what happens.
The anchor was sweating
bullets, this was good TV and he knew it, but he felt like he was
walking a tight rope, “Pastor Jensen, was this vote a ploy to get
the votes against Pastor Proffitt's wishes?”
Bill Jensen looked
directly into the camera,“Community of Christ cares deeply for the
homeless and the destitute of this city. That's why we are building
this coffee shop. Not only will it raise much needed funding for
homeless programming, but every Monday evening, from 5 to 6 PM, the
cafe will be open to those very people for a Bible study, directly
geared to them and designed to help them in their daily struggle. We
also care about our former pastor in his time of grief. What my
friend here is failing to mention is that the profits from the coffee
shop and the book store would be put right back into our relief
missions. In fact, we project it will more than double..”
The combination of sleep
deprivation, hanging with strippers, a sleepless night at the
hospital, and his general disdain for Bill Jensen boiled over in an
instant. Even as he spoke, Tru felt a sense of dread. This could not
end well,“When? When will that happen, Bill? At least two years and
you're borrowing money from a fund that should be helping people
right now..”
“Tru, I know you're
upset, but this is not helping, you know that we are busy helping the
poor and the disenfranchised. We serve breakfast twice a month at the
rescue shelter and we sponsored six families last Christmas which is
a lot for a congregation of our size...” Bill Jenses seemed to be
enjoying this.
“Look around Bill. It's
not enough, whatever we're doing is not enough. You think people need
a Bible study in your damn coffee shop? You can walk four blocks in
any direction from this studio and find people who could've used that
money today, last night, last week, not two years from now!” Tru
stood up from the sofa and walked over to the street side windows a
camera man following close behind.
Bill turned toward the
camera on his right, away from Tru and smiled smugly into the
camera“You know you're crazy, right?”
“So, what? That's
supposed to disqualify me?" Tru headed back toward Bill Jensen,
somewhere alarms were going off in his head loud enough to keep him
from launching himself on top of the man,"All of the Biblical
prophets were a little nuts. John the Baptist lived in the wilderness
wearing camels hair and eating bugs, Balaam talked to a donkey, Jonah
was swallowed by a whale, Elijah called bears out of a forest to
consume children who made fun of his hair and Ezekiel communicated
with extra terrestrials. You think just because we haven't seen a
real prophet for a couple of generations that they're gone? They'll
be back and when they do come back it's going to be the kind of
carnival sideshow that only happens once in a millennium.”
Tru walked off the set
and down the hall toward the dressing room where his jacket was. He
was done. The intern in the jeans and Tshirt followed him with his
clipboard, “Sir, we need you to come back for the next segment,
they told me they have some follow up questions.”
“No,” Tru stopped and
turned to him,”Tell them I apologize, but I will not sit out there
and pretend not to be outraged by what this man has done to the
Church that I loved and my wife's memory. Here is your microphone,
good day.” He carefully pulled the microphone from his pocket and
handed it to him, un-stringing the cord from his shirt.
The book takes place in
Oklahoma City, which should be fun for a lot of my friends, and it is
funny, if I do say so. I am planning to launch it on Sept 19th,
so stay tuned!
Thursday, August 14, 2014
Two of my eight kids have made it, to college, that is. Two home schooled students, accepted to major universities, and receiving scholarships. If this doesn't do it for you, they both choose worship experiences, quiet times with friends and service projects when they are free to make their own choices. SO, how did we raise such awesome kids?
I would like to say there was some
grand plan, but to be perfectly honest, we have mostly taken a one
day at a time, allow the child to find their way approach, while
offering lots of guidance, clear cut guidelines for behavior in our
family, and as many opportunities to do the things they were
passionate about as we could afford.
I know that's not very specific, so
here at three things we did that I think all parents should do to get
great kids.
- Know them. This may sound flippant, but it's not. In this day and age, most parents spend maybe an hour or two per day in the presence of their younger children, and almost none by the time they reach high school. We not only home schooled our kids up to high school, and my oldest son until graduation by his own choice, but we are also self employed, a choice that allows us to know our kids. We are there for them, one hundred percent. We attend every concert, every game, every play. We know those who pour into their lives and we know their friends.
- Build fences judiciously, and make them clearly marked. We set up a lot of rules in the beginning, too many. So, over time we boiled it down to love God, love others, and built our household rules around that. For instance, if you ever treat your best friends better than you treat your siblings, the best friendship will be long distance, or not at all. We tried not to change the rules, unless it was necessary, we tried to make consequences fair, and we kept conflict to a minimum by not making rules we did not need to make. I learned this from my own parents. We have restrictions, but they are fair, consistent, and few.
- Share your faith and ideas, don't indoctrinate. There is no way to force children into your belief system. It doesn't work. There is no way to restrict them into righteous behavior, or make them quote enough scripture to engrave it on their DNA. Share with your kids, often, tell them what you believe and why you believe it. Tell them what you expect, and what kind of consequences life will dish out for bad choices. Ask them what they believe, and use that as a springboard to converse more deeply. Point out logical flaws, and work to fill gaps in understanding, but you have no choice at all when it comes to what your children ultimately believe to be the truth.
There is so much more, that I am sure
we have done, some intentionally, some intuitively, but I hope this
saves somebody some frustration. Ultimately, it has been my goal, and
we seem to be batting 1000 on this so far, to raise children who do
not turn out to be a**holes. That's my advice, good luck, and relax,
it isn't as hard as it looks. The hard stuff is up to God anyway.
Wednesday, August 13, 2014
What would I do today if I did not care
what anyone thought? Would I be awesome, take chances, make something
happen? Or would I continue working only hard enough to remain
comfortable, fearing the great risks of life.
For most people who have met me,
fearful would probably not be a word they would use to describe me.
Brash, outspoken, a bit of a radical thinker, perhaps, but not
fearful. But, that doesn't make it any less true. I am afraid. I may
even be addicted to safety.
I started out in life, like so many,
with a lot of promise. I have several obvious talents, scholarship
being among them, I rose to the top of every classroom. I started
acting at a fairly young age, and got a lot of praise for my efforts.
I started my first businesses as a kid, and was fairly successful. I
can speak in front of any crowd, on almost any topic without
embarrassing myself, but yet, I am stuck.
It seems that potential and gifts are
simply what we make of them. As a wise man once said, If you think
you can, or you can't, you are probably right! And so, I start
another day in the life.
Right now, I am an itinerant carpenter
(sounds familiar) trying to keep enough work to pay the bills,
without falling off the edge in to workaholism. It isn't easy, with
eight kids, two headed off to college.
I think one reason I have never
ventured further is that I have romanticized my life. Surviving in
the tough and gritty world, just slightly counter cultural, not
caring too much about anything, critiquing it all, as if I am somehow
outside the “system”. But, I'm not.
I am just as much as anyone else,
caught up in the unfolding of history, and going kicking and
screaming into whatever future lays in store will do little to
curtail it.
I have tried, from time to time, to get
in touch with who I really was meant to be. I thought I had it all
mapped out for 25 years. In the end, it has always come back to how
people would perceive me, and whether my mask was skillfully crafted
enough to let me get by. I have mostly felt like an outsider my whole
life, either feeling that I didn't understand enough to fully engage,
or that I understood too much to participate, since it was
meaningless anyway.
So, what to do about it? I am letting
the mask slip a little today. I'm lonely. Not alone, and not unloved.
I have a wonderful wife and children who make up the closest thing to
a perfect family I could dream of. Not friendless, I have several
very good friends that I count on whenever, although not often
enough. I want community. Something larger than family, but smaller
than social media. Ha!
Well, while I am at it, let's go a
little deeper. I am scared. Not afraid that my life means nothing, I
will probably have a greater influence than most, just by sheer
numbers of offspring. Not afraid to meet God, although I know I can
do better, He and I are at peace for the most part. But, I am afraid
that I will miss it! What? You may ask, are you going to miss? I am
afraid that in the busyness of my life, I will miss my opportunity,
or that I have already had it and blown it. I am afraid that I will
never be everything that I could be, or want to be. And so, I sit,
afraid, like the servant with the talent buried in the ground, afraid
that I will try, but no one will pay attention, afraid that I will
succeed, and forget who I am in the process, afraid that I don't even
know where to begin to try, and so, day after day, I drive screws and
cut lumber, all the while dreaming of something more, but afraid to
take the first steps.
Let me tell you who I want to be. I
want to be a storyteller, and I got to do that on a small scale for a
lot of years, but I want more. I want to change the way people, not
everyone, but some people, how they view the world!
I have always been a writer, even did
it for a living for a couple of years, and as you can see, spent
quite a bit of time in the past on this blog. But what I have in mind
is bigger. I want to be seen. I want people to read me. I want to
make my books into movies, and even have an idea to create an
entirely new form of entertainment using today's broadcast channels.
So, what am I going to do about it? I
am going to begin to think as if it were already a reality! So, when
you see me posting my new stories, go take a look. Tell me what you
think, even if you don't agree with it! Tell me how it makes you
think, does it effect the way you see things? I hope so, even if you
never agree with me. I want to wake people up. I want to inspire.
This is mostly brought on by changes
happening in my own life, but, Robin Williams is a personal hero of
mine, in the stories he chose to tell. Not all of them, but many,
were very worth telling and he did it with a passion that has only
been equaled by a very few. So, what about you? What would you do
today if you really did not care what anybody else thought?
Friday, October 5, 2012
Everyone wants to be cool, right? Well, everyone I know wants to be thought of that way, which may say something about my friends, but I digress.
Why is it so hard to be? I mean, when you think about it, shouldn't having a tota
Why is it so hard to be? I mean, when you think about it, shouldn't having a tota
Do not store up treasure on earth where rust and moths destroy and thieves break in and steal! Sound Familiar? Or how about this golden oldy, The love of money is the root of all evil!
So, here we are. We trusted in the system. We banked on 401k's and mutual funds to provide us with financial security (now there's an oxymoron) and we got burned, DUH!!!
While Jesus was here several of his disciples tried in vain to make him see the potential of taking over the political realm of his day, which by the way was the Roman empire not too shabby as political sytems go, with the same results. He constantly reminded them of the fact that this is just a preview the real show doesn't happen until we leave the lobby and move into the rest of eternity.
So lately we, followers of the teachings of Jesus, have gotten a little too comfortable here with our status as aliens and sojourners and started acting like we were here to stay! Those of you who want to blaim a political figure or a business man for shaking things up go right ahead but I know better. This is the way God always handles things when his children forget why they're here in the first place!
So, here we are. We trusted in the system. We banked on 401k's and mutual funds to provide us with financial security (now there's an oxymoron) and we got burned, DUH!!!
While Jesus was here several of his disciples tried in vain to make him see the potential of taking over the political realm of his day, which by the way was the Roman empire not too shabby as political sytems go, with the same results. He constantly reminded them of the fact that this is just a preview the real show doesn't happen until we leave the lobby and move into the rest of eternity.
So lately we, followers of the teachings of Jesus, have gotten a little too comfortable here with our status as aliens and sojourners and started acting like we were here to stay! Those of you who want to blaim a political figure or a business man for shaking things up go right ahead but I know better. This is the way God always handles things when his children forget why they're here in the first place!
AAAAAAAARRRRGGGGHHHH!!!! I hate "Christian" bookstores! As with most of my opening statements, allow me to explain. I am a firm believer that Jesus was a practitioner of the K.I.S.S. principle. For those who don't know, that stands for Keep It Simple Stupid. How, you may ask, does this apply to the subject at hand? I will tell you, my friend.
Yesterday, it seems much longer ago, I had several moments to spare between meetings and decide to kill some time perusing the aisles of a local merchant who's name I will only say begins with "Mard" and ends in "ell". I went, as is my custom on such occasions, directly for the cheap stuff in the bargain shelves. I passed over several books which I will probably read in the future but was just not inclined to purchase on the day in question and was just ambling down the aisles reading the spines of the different books when it struck me, (now this is not an original thought, nor is it my first time at this particular rodeo, never the less) Why would it require seventeen thousand volumes all more than four hundred pages to accurately depict what God has to say about the economy?
Let me back up a bit. God, okay? God, creates the universe in seven days. Then walks through six thousand odd years of human history making friends. Out of these friends he picks a few dozen and asks them to record certain details of his interactions and ideas in the process of providing a snapshot, as it were, of himself and how he chooses to interact with humans. He protects these written documents through various means and reveals them to us. We quickly compile and organize, (which may have been our first mistake, I mean how many times has the Truth been obfuscated by the simple fact that "that verse is in the next chapter"?) then set about to make as many versions, translations, editions whatever as possible.
During all of this the original text essentially stays the same, sixty-six books, right? (okay now, this is not the conversation where we break out the apocrypha, the lost gospels, etc) IF you add all of the documents that have ANY valid claim to being a part of the "Judeo Christian" scriptual record, they still could not compare in sheer volume and variation with the mounds of worthless crap adorning the shelves of only ONE DEPARTMENT of the modern Christian Superstore! And most of this has been produced not only within the context of American history, but within the last half century!
Then I turn the corner from the bargain bins and look out across the vast array of competing viewpoints, wow! There's this video, and granted I didn't listen too much because by this time I am feeling a little sick, and a guy sitting on a stool telling me that the circumstances of my life dictate that I should purchase THIS BIBLE that THIS BIBLE versus any other will bring the truth of God's word to bear on my life more powerfully because it has been prepared by the greatest theological minds of our times! Well, whoopteedoo! Look, I'm sure these guys are great. I'm sure that many of their viewpoints are valid and insightful, but here's the thing...
There was this guy named Balaam, remember? This guy was called as God's prophet to Israel. Then a king came and made him an offer he couldn't refuse, riches beyond his wildest dreams to speak a simple curse against a tribe of nomads from Egypt who were eating all his grain. God said, "No, they are blessed, don't do it," Balaam spent a couple days allowing them to offer more and more money until he finally cracks and goes to speak the curse, an angel and a talking donkey got involved and you remeber the rest....POINT?
When all of these "teachers" "Preachers" and "Prophets" have tied their livelihood to their individual publishing empires, who speaks for God? Look, I hate money. Anybody who knows me knows it is rarely a motivating factor in my decisions, however, when one of my acting students threatens to withdraw based on something that is within my power to change my ability to make the "right" choice gets clouded. You know you should spend more time with your family, but your boss needs this, your boss, needs that, what about my promotion I won't get if I do the right thing? SERIOUSLY! If my ability to make a living is contingent upon my getting enough people to to read my prophetic utterance in the guise of the next bestseller, HOW CAN I REALLY SAY ONLY WHAT I HEAR GOD SAY????!!!
So.. I realllly hate Christian book stores, because to me they represent how the Men of God of today have prostituted themselves into preparing "doctrine" that will tickle the ears. Are you still there or did I officially piss everbody off? Hello? Oh well, I said what I needed to say.
Yesterday, it seems much longer ago, I had several moments to spare between meetings and decide to kill some time perusing the aisles of a local merchant who's name I will only say begins with "Mard" and ends in "ell". I went, as is my custom on such occasions, directly for the cheap stuff in the bargain shelves. I passed over several books which I will probably read in the future but was just not inclined to purchase on the day in question and was just ambling down the aisles reading the spines of the different books when it struck me, (now this is not an original thought, nor is it my first time at this particular rodeo, never the less) Why would it require seventeen thousand volumes all more than four hundred pages to accurately depict what God has to say about the economy?
Let me back up a bit. God, okay? God, creates the universe in seven days. Then walks through six thousand odd years of human history making friends. Out of these friends he picks a few dozen and asks them to record certain details of his interactions and ideas in the process of providing a snapshot, as it were, of himself and how he chooses to interact with humans. He protects these written documents through various means and reveals them to us. We quickly compile and organize, (which may have been our first mistake, I mean how many times has the Truth been obfuscated by the simple fact that "that verse is in the next chapter"?) then set about to make as many versions, translations, editions whatever as possible.
During all of this the original text essentially stays the same, sixty-six books, right? (okay now, this is not the conversation where we break out the apocrypha, the lost gospels, etc) IF you add all of the documents that have ANY valid claim to being a part of the "Judeo Christian" scriptual record, they still could not compare in sheer volume and variation with the mounds of worthless crap adorning the shelves of only ONE DEPARTMENT of the modern Christian Superstore! And most of this has been produced not only within the context of American history, but within the last half century!
Then I turn the corner from the bargain bins and look out across the vast array of competing viewpoints, wow! There's this video, and granted I didn't listen too much because by this time I am feeling a little sick, and a guy sitting on a stool telling me that the circumstances of my life dictate that I should purchase THIS BIBLE that THIS BIBLE versus any other will bring the truth of God's word to bear on my life more powerfully because it has been prepared by the greatest theological minds of our times! Well, whoopteedoo! Look, I'm sure these guys are great. I'm sure that many of their viewpoints are valid and insightful, but here's the thing...
There was this guy named Balaam, remember? This guy was called as God's prophet to Israel. Then a king came and made him an offer he couldn't refuse, riches beyond his wildest dreams to speak a simple curse against a tribe of nomads from Egypt who were eating all his grain. God said, "No, they are blessed, don't do it," Balaam spent a couple days allowing them to offer more and more money until he finally cracks and goes to speak the curse, an angel and a talking donkey got involved and you remeber the rest....POINT?
When all of these "teachers" "Preachers" and "Prophets" have tied their livelihood to their individual publishing empires, who speaks for God? Look, I hate money. Anybody who knows me knows it is rarely a motivating factor in my decisions, however, when one of my acting students threatens to withdraw based on something that is within my power to change my ability to make the "right" choice gets clouded. You know you should spend more time with your family, but your boss needs this, your boss, needs that, what about my promotion I won't get if I do the right thing? SERIOUSLY! If my ability to make a living is contingent upon my getting enough people to to read my prophetic utterance in the guise of the next bestseller, HOW CAN I REALLY SAY ONLY WHAT I HEAR GOD SAY????!!!
So.. I realllly hate Christian book stores, because to me they represent how the Men of God of today have prostituted themselves into preparing "doctrine" that will tickle the ears. Are you still there or did I officially piss everbody off? Hello? Oh well, I said what I needed to say.
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